Wednesday, 17 August 2011

How to Feel Pretty

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I was feeling particularly pretty the other day so I snapped a few quick photos in the bathroom mirror. I never originally intended to share them on here - they were simply a self esteem booster for me.

I think in general I have a pretty healthy body image. I know I an a few pounds heavier than I was when I started this blog, but I also know I'd rather eat ice-cream than be a size smaller so it balances out. 

Photographing myself so often for this blog has really forced me to confront any issues I do have with my body. I think I'm not alone in the fact that I take loads of outfit photos, and only a handful of carefully scrutinised and edited pictures make it on here. Having taken so many I feel like I know every inch of myself, and I know which bits I like, and how to hide the bits I don't. Overall though I'm pretty happy with the person in the mirror.

However like everyone I have days when my hair won't behave, and my outfit just isn't quite right, and I feel unhappy with the way I look. And so, because I did feel pretty, I took some photos. Blogging has made capturing pretty things with my camera a natural part of my life, and sometimes that's food or a new dress, sometimes a shop window display or me.

I read the lovely Leia's post last week on blogging and body self-consciousness and I was fascinated by her thoughts, and the comments too. I think most people concluded that whether blogging had made them more self-conscious or not, it had made them look at themselves differently.

I think like anything blogging is what you make of it. I try to use my blog to capture all the good things in my life, so that I'll always remember them. And so when I feel good, I take a photo.

34 comments:

Rachel said...

You look lovely, I really need to get better at taking mirror shots!

Danielle said...

I love this post, and your attitude to ice-cream. It's always so nice to hear style bloggers being honest about this issue, and to hear that you're happy with the way you look, rather than wanting to change. That's something I've been working on too.

Leia said...

You are SO pretty, Harriet! And I think it's wonderful that you decided to capture the moment so it can serve as a reminder of just how pretty you are! While blogging can draw negative attention to your (er, my) wobbly bits, it can also be a huge boost of self-confidence when other bloggers leave positive feedback, I think.

Leia

xStroutx said...

I love this post! You look beautiful and its a fantastic idea to capture the things that make you feel good.

MariƱa " La Marquesa" said...

the thing is that you look very nice in these pictures...maybe is for the blusher or the lip stick but you look very nice. I am agree with you the fact of taking pictures ofter sometimes help with your self-esteem because you can feel horrible this day and after a while you see the picture and you think...maybe I was not so bad....I don´t know....

Kate said...

Thanks for sharing that - you're lovely as ever!

Michelle Goldie said...

This is such a lovely posts and you are very pretty on these pictures :)
I like blogging about what I like, cool things I discover, happy times and of course Fashion!
If you have a moment, I would be delighted to know what you think of my last post about Christian Dior Couture http://goldielondon.blogspot.com/2011/08/christian-dior-retrospective.html
Have a nice day and keep taking pictures of pretty things :)
xx

daisychain said...

I love this post Harriet.


And for the record,
you are always pretty

Inside + out

xx

ellio100 said...

Those are really lovely pictures!
I was reading some of the fuss about couple-blogs in the guardian, so this seems very timely to me though it could be one of the scheduled posts you mentioned. I think the best blogs are able to focus on life's pretty moments without seeming smug and I think yours is one of the very best I've come across.

I often feel a little awkward posting outfit pictures. I often have difficulty perceiving my body rationally. Often I think taking pictures of myself gives me a better sense of how I look than the mirror, but I think blogging can confuse this. Obviously I don't want to share the rubbish pictures (and to be honest I don't really think anyone would like to see the crap ones!) but the process of selection and editing doesn't always encourage my rational habits!

I like your blog because I find your attitude to blogging really refreshing: often I find your posts very frank, with none of the attention-seeking that sometimes comes across elsewhere.

Wardrobe Block said...

I do agree, as since blogging i
I've noticed what works well on me and not. Although, sometimes I ignore those rules and dress how the hell I want! I hate posting a photo when I feel I look like crap so I don't, and posting a photo where I think I look good, well, makes me feel good! I don't have the best body, but at the end of the day that doesn't matter. We don't all look like Rumi Neely... I certainly won't be posting a photo of myself in a bikini any day soon anyway.

Raz said...

Great post. Since I started taking more regular pictures of what I'm wearing I've become more aware of what 'the others' see. I think it helps that I usually can get a decent photo. Sometimes if I can't I just give up - better to see bad days as just that rather than a disaster.

Maria said...

I always think you look fantastic and I am lucky enough to know that you are actually a really nice person in real life too... I think blogging has REALLY helped my self esteem and as you say I like to capture this with photos. I will post outtakes because let's face it, no-one is perfect all the time (I'm certainly not!) and I think my blog needs to reflect that side of me too!

Maria xxx

PinkBow said...

Really love this Harriet. Such a thoughtful & honest post. You do look very pretty and why not capture it. Isn't it strange though to sometimes have these pretty days? What is different. And yet they do occur.

Alice said...

I really admire you for posting these photos on here and the meaning behind them. You are very pretty xxx

Miss Raj said...

I think your attitude is wonderful - blogging, really like anything, is what you make of it. Its an online diary of sorts, it captures you as you change with time. And capturing the good moments always serves as motivation for the times when we are low. You look beautiful in this post - you always look great, and if you ever feel down on yourself - just come back and look at this post. Because truly, you look great x

Sherin said...

Firstly, I'd also pick eating ice cream over being a size smaller.

And you do look so beautiful in these pictures (you always look really pretty).

I agree, blogging can be tough on body image. I hate to say it, but I'm constantly comparing myself to others! It's definitely really important to have a positive attitude about it all.

Little Lj said...

Well said, and you do look pretty. I rarely photograph myself for my blog (my most recent post is possibly the most my face has actually featured, like, ever) and I know I had a really tough time doing it as I do suffer from low self esteem when it comes to body image. I don't know how all you fashion bloggers manage it day after day! Glad you do though or we wouldn't see your lovely outfits!

E is for Eleanor said...

You look beautiful Harriet and your skin looks glowing! I love this post, I like to think blogging has given me much more confidence :) x

Peacock's Hat said...

I know exactly what you mean, whilst blogging has perhaps given me more confidence in my clothing choices (its nice to know someone out there likes them!) taking constant photos of myself does make me notice my body a lot more... which is not helped by me gaining a fair bit of weight over the last few years. Its also difficult because I feel a lot of bloggers are quite thin (not all obviously) and I do worry that I am larger than a lot. Also, I do feel there are things I would like to wear but can't because of my weight/shape. But I've just started a manual labour (well, working in the food hall for M&S!) so hopefully I shall lose a bit of weight.
And also, you do look lovely in these pictures :)

tor (fabfrocks) said...

Great photos and great attitude!

I think that bloggers look at themselves more frequently (and more critically) than any other group of people I know. You definitely need a positive healthy attitude towards your body/body image to post photos of yourself everyday!

Megan said...

I have pretty good self esteem and I think blogging as helped my personal style has definitely evolved through blogging and I think that in itself is a confidence booster.

Chuck said...

You take photos of your self as a self-esteem booster? Jealous - we live in different worlds! Photos of myself tend to have the opposite effect. Even when I'm feeling pretty photos tend to destroy that. Shoddy photography skills contribute. Nice pictures are almost always fluke luck. My self-esteem flourishes away from cameras and closer to ice cream. Mmm... ice cream. x

ChinkyGirLMeL said...

Well hello gorgeous! I can definitely relate to you on this one. Since I have started blogging I have felt that I got to know myself better, both inside and out. There are some blogs that don't put pictures of themselves, I respect that, but I feel more connected to blogs that post pictures of who they are, where they are from, it makes me feel like I am reading something from an actual person. Anyhow, have a happy day gorgeous!

rose petals said...

I loved this post and you look so fresh faced and pretty :) I do feel self conscious normally anyway so I don't think that blogging has made me feel any more self conscious then I already am! lol Thanks for sharing the link :) Xx

SabinePsynopsis said...

These are very lovely pictures. To me the first year of blogging felt like 'coming out', although I still find it a weird thing to post photos of myself, sometimes. xo

My Hideaway said...

You look lovely and people would read your blog no matter what size you were! Hope your studying is going well:)

Vintage Reflection said...

You look so fresh faced and cute. I love days like these, where every thing falls into place! You look lovely x

Liz B. said...

Your skin is INSANE! Beautiful headshots.

~bumbling bee

Hazel said...

Great post, you look very pretty. For my current challenge I am posting outfit shots everyday and it does encourage me to think a little more about an outfit, how I put it together, instead of just throwing on the same old thing. This helps with my self confidence and self perception as a great outfit that makes you feel fabulous has an amazing effect on your confidence and how you conduct yourself in everyday life. Feeling great, for what ever reason, often makes you feel like you can conquer the world (or at least a little bit of your own!).
I'm now off to see what Leia had to say...

Kimberlee said...

Aw I'm sorry I didn't get to read this post until after I did link love- this is wonderful! Every girl should take a pic when she FEELS beautiful not to convince herself she is beautiful (talking to you Facebook ladies!). I'm with ya, I'd rather enjoy things I love then stress about being a dress size smaller :)

Raquel said...

you are absolutely beautiful! i love your simple make up and striped top!

MJ said...

Harriet, first things first you look freaking AMAZING here, so natural! I really admire your perspective here - I won't deny my body image has been affected by blogging, but this post has really made me think.

Kelly-Ann said...

Great post :)

Anonymous said...

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